Habits can be a good thing, they help automate certain behaviors and to save energy so that we can concentrate on more important things. Developing, sharing, supporting skills should not be a habit. It should be something you are thinking about for your self, your team, your organization and community.

How neuroscience helps us to understand the connections between skills and behaviors. Neuroscientist Dr. Andrew Huberman has explained how changing behaviors is key to changing mood and even beliefs. Behaving in certain ways, like active listening, grows the skills needed to support the behavior. This is why behaviors can be such an important part of skill and competency models.

When you meet a new person what do you ask first? Most often we start by asking what they do. Maybe we should start by understanding each other's values.